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👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Chinese Family & People Vocabulary

The Chinese family vocabulary system is famously precise — there are different words for older vs. younger siblings, paternal vs. maternal relatives, and an elaborate system of kinship terms that encode relationship information English just doesn't have words for.

Why Chinese Kinship Is the Way It Is

Kinship terms are a system, not a list

Every Chinese kinship term encodes three pieces of information: the person's generation relative to you, their gender, and whether they're on your father's or mother's side. There's no generic 'uncle' or 'aunt' — the specific term tells you exactly how someone is related to you. Chinese kids learn these terms alongside basic vocabulary because the kinship system matters in daily life. Calling your maternal uncle 叔叔 (which is the paternal term) is a genuine social mistake that people will notice.

Age hierarchy in addressing strangers

Chinese speakers use family terms to address unrelated people based on apparent age. A woman slightly older than you is 姐姐 (jiějie, older sister), regardless of whether you're related. An older man is 叔叔 or 伯伯. A child might call any adult woman 阿姨 (āyí, aunt). This isn't being overly familiar — it's the standard polite way to address people whose names you don't know. Using 你 (nǐ, you) directly with strangers, especially older ones, can feel too direct.

Immediate Family

CharacterPinyinMeaningNote
爸爸bàbadad
妈妈māmamom
儿子érzison
女儿nǚ'érdaughter
哥哥gēgeolder brotherNever just 'brother.' Age relative to the speaker is baked into the word. If you don't know whether someone is older or younger, you have to ask.
弟弟dìdiyounger brother
姐姐jiějieolder sister
妹妹mèimeiyounger sister
丈夫zhàngfuhusband老公 (lǎogōng) is the casual term used in daily life. 丈夫 is formal.
妻子qīziwife老婆 (lǎopó) is what people actually say. 妻子 is for forms and formal writing.

Grandparents — Paternal vs. Maternal

CharacterPinyinMeaningNote
爷爷yéyepaternal grandfather (dad's dad)
奶奶nǎinaipaternal grandmother (dad's mom)
外公wàigōngmaternal grandfather (mom's dad)The 外 (wài, 'outside') prefix reflects traditional patrilineal thinking — the mother's side was considered the 'outside' family. This is changing but the terminology hasn't.
外婆wàipómaternal grandmother (mom's mom)

Aunts, Uncles & Extended Family

CharacterPinyinMeaningNote
叔叔shūshuuncle (dad's younger brother)Only refers to dad's younger brother. Dad's older brother is 伯伯 (bóbo). Mom's brothers are 舅舅 (jiùjiu). Three different words, all 'uncle.'
阿姨āyíaunt (mom's sister); also a polite term for any woman of your parents' generation
表弟biǎodìyounger male cousin (mom's side or dad's sisters' children)Chinese distinguishes paternal vs. maternal cousins AND older vs. younger. 表弟, 表哥, 表姐, 表妹 cover the 'outer' cousins. 堂弟, 堂哥 etc. are 'inner' cousins (dad's brothers' children).
孩子háizichild; kid
孙子sūnzigrandson (son's son)

Describing People

CharacterPinyinMeaningNote
gāotall; high
漂亮piàoliangpretty; beautiful (usually for women)帅 (shuài, handsome) is the male equivalent. 可爱 (kě'ài, cute) works for everyone.
年轻niánqīngyoung
lǎoold
聪明cōngmíngsmart; intelligent
友好yǒuhǎofriendly
有趣yǒuqùinteresting; fun (personality)

Social Relationships

CharacterPinyinMeaningNote
朋友péngyoufriend
同事tóngshìcolleague; coworker
同学tóngxuéclassmate
邻居línjūneighbor
男朋友nán péngyouboyfriend
女朋友nǚ péngyougirlfriend
老板lǎobǎnbossUsed for any business owner or manager — not just your direct supervisor. Calling a restaurant owner 老板 is a small politeness that costs nothing.

These words appear across HSK 1–4. Practice them by level at HSK Vocabulary or drill them with Flashcards.